Success in life has a price. Hard work, tension, push - pull and competition are part of it. It's a mixed bag. For most, the pleasure of success outweighs the pain due to all these factors. And, the pain increases in direct proportion to the success. Super success means intense pain. In sport, opposition will strategize and target you if you are really good and will use both fair and unfair means. Sports also teaches you that the opposition will get better of you sometimes. Ask anyone who has played any sport at international level.
If you are new, disruptive and come with no support, the system will try to keep you out, will form a cartel against you. It happens in all walks of life, art, business, sports etc. If a promising start-up begins to seriously challenge an established international brand, all weapons physical and others are pointed and thrown at you.
In all this, the pleasure - pain equation must be maintained. Pleasure must outweigh the pain. Your being targeted is indicative of how serious the system takes you. And, sometime one will lose because the world is not a fair place. If you are not being given an opportunity to participate, change the success parameters (or rules of the game) and you are back in the game. Pleasure pain equation has different values now. But nothing is worth ending your life. Then you are converting your pain into misery for all. And, if you are Sushant Singh Rajput, it means millions of people who like you, adore you and take encouragement from you. And, it is devastation of unimaginable proportion for the family. COVID-19 viral attack feels like a mosquito bite as compared to what Sushant’s Dad and the family must be going through.
Our current world has made success as a binary and the only measure by which human beings are evaluated. It is absolutely necessary to pause and ask, why I feel pained to the point of leaving it all. If you reach out to people who love you, some of them will have an answer. Ancient Indian scriptures have dealt with this subject in detail, specially the concept of “pravritti” and “nivritti”. It would be worth understanding these to get a perspective on life and its trials.
Our dear Sushant made a choice and left all of us in deep pain and anguish. There are lots of things to learn from him but not this one – ending the life. Reach out for help if you are in any kind of anguish.
Dear Sushant boy, while we are all restless, our prayers are for you to rest in peace.